I saw such an interesting article about a lady who wrote in asking if she was “Too Big for Love”. My opinion is that, You’re only too Big for a man to love you if you think you’re too big. Even though I might sometimes feel self-conscience about my extra fat roll or stretch marks, I don’t carry that around with me. Most guys think I’m super-confident with the way I dress and carry myself. I say fake it, pretend like you’re confident and no guy will know the difference. I’ve went on a couple more dates with the new guy, I even got 3 more white roses on our 3rd date! Is this real? Somebody pinch me. LOL! Anyway, here is a link to the article. http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/article.aspx?cp-documentid=23154077>1=32023#atoolb
You make a very good point, nobody is too big for love. However I have found that a big part of allowing someone to love you is to love yourself. That can be very hard when you have extra pounds. I have been losing weight, and I feel great, but I am still aware of the differences between me and the “average” body. It is like the mirror challenge you recommended. Saying and feeling good things about yourself makes you more attractive and confident 🙂
That being said why does everyone think it is okay to comment on weight? I certainly appreciate the compliments I am getting from losing weight, but sometimes it can be annoying to have my weight be such a public topic.
I just wanted to say thanks for the podcasts…YOU ROCK! It was the only thing keeping me from stopping W3D1 was the music. I’m from Trinidad (in the Caribbean) and I think what you’re doing is absolutely fantastic – the effort that you put into it does not go unnoticed.
Keep up the good work. I CAN’T WAIT for your 10K podcasts (ctually, I have to wait because I am not going to any other website for my podcasts!)
Lorin, you are right, you have to love yourself enough to allow someone else to love you. I totally agree with you about weight being such an open topic that people feel comfortable commenting on. I always wondered, what about when I was gaining weight, what were you saying then? and who were you saying it to?
You make a very good point, nobody is too big for love. However I have found that a big part of allowing someone to love you is to love yourself. That can be very hard when you have extra pounds. I have been losing weight, and I feel great, but I am still aware of the differences between me and the “average” body. It is like the mirror challenge you recommended. Saying and feeling good things about yourself makes you more attractive and confident 🙂
That being said why does everyone think it is okay to comment on weight? I certainly appreciate the compliments I am getting from losing weight, but sometimes it can be annoying to have my weight be such a public topic.
I just wanted to say thanks for the podcasts…YOU ROCK! It was the only thing keeping me from stopping W3D1 was the music. I’m from Trinidad (in the Caribbean) and I think what you’re doing is absolutely fantastic – the effort that you put into it does not go unnoticed.
Keep up the good work. I CAN’T WAIT for your 10K podcasts (ctually, I have to wait because I am not going to any other website for my podcasts!)
Lorin, you are right, you have to love yourself enough to allow someone else to love you. I totally agree with you about weight being such an open topic that people feel comfortable commenting on. I always wondered, what about when I was gaining weight, what were you saying then? and who were you saying it to?
SD , you’re very welcome! I hope to see you on my Wall of Fame!